Wednesday, September 19, 2012

{ 3rd Dates - Chris & Sharla }


When I first met Sharla at the beginning of The Mormon Bachelor I was blown away by how beautiful, smart, vibrant, and fun she was.  She is also extremely passionate which is something I am looking for in a future wife.  She seemed to fit the description of everything I wanted, which is why I am really disappointed in myself that I let our relationship slip through the cracks.  

I guess I turned into the "typical guy" - we went on our dates, and we held hands, and I kissed her and enjoyed every second of it.  But then I didn't call.  I didn't text.  I didn't keep in touch and let her know that she was important to me.  There are a lot of reasons why - I was busy thinking about one of the other girls on the show and it was definitely distracting my ability to show Sharla affection.  But I still really liked her and wanted to see where things could go.

I would be the first person to tell you that I thought Sharla and I would be standing at the end of this hand in hand and preparing for our future.  Without attention and work at the relationship it didn't quite get there.  I am not sure how my last date will go but I still have hope that Sharla will change her mind and reconsider if there is an opportunity.  I was glad that Devin, the Producer of TMB was able to spend time with her since I didn't but I don't think I can shut the door on Sharla.  She is a such a great girl.

15 comments:

April said...

He doesn't want to shut the door, but it sounds like she already shut it?

Connie said...

sounds like he wants what he can't have. If I were Chris, I'd focus more on the last remaining girl. Since he was able to do that while Sharla was waiting around, it should still be easy to focus on THAT girl now.

Sounds like the drama may ruin all the relationships- what girl wants to feel like a second place trophy?? He needs to be ALL about ONE girl if he's going to see marriage at the end of this. If my husband had two girls he wanted at once I would've walked away like Sharla did. But hey, that's me...

Geoff said...

Wow, she is all over the place with her reasoning. - "I like him. We're super compatible." "I'm not sure how compatible we are because I barely know him."

We've all been there, but it'd be good to have some concrete reasons. I'd stick with, "Chris dropped the ball and I, as an attractive, in-demand woman, moved on."

Emma Manolis said...

Wow this season is really starting to bum me out! I really thought Sharla and Chris were way cute together. :(

The Herd Mom said...

I don't normally comment, but I just wanted to say that I've grown more and more impressed with Sharla as we've gotten to know her. You're rock solid, girl! And I'd love to know where you got your dress, so if you check these comments...? lol.

The Hoogland Family said...

Aww how disapointing! But come on Sharla, he is dating others, he can't give you all his attention, that is part of the process, right? Give Chris a little break, I can see your point though about hurting the other guy, who you have been able to build a relationship with, that is very respectful. Maybe in another time, situation and place. I really thought you two had THE spark!

Melanie Jacobson said...

This makes me think that Sharla is the awesomest girl ever. You teach people how to treat you. Get it, girl.

Unknown said...

It seems like Chris is striking out on third dates. I wonder who the last girl will be who was occupying his thoughts? Courtney? Kirsty?

Mysterious Pirate said...

I think that the scene at the beginning where Devin tricks Sharla into pulling the lever and getting soaked was the most entertaining part of the whole season. (At least that I've seen.) Thanks, Sharla! I love to laugh. :)

Who does everybody think is the last (only real) 3rd date?

Shayla said...

Wow. I really wanted Sharla and Chris to end up together. Actually, Chris would be compatible with a few of the girls. This just goes to show that there are many possibilities for everyone. Also, this is a wonderful example why it is hard to date multiple people. A divided heart isn't a true heart, and dating more than one person is challenging. But let's be honest, Chris is crushed. He was totally set on her from the beginning. And Sharla is just doing the best she can. The truth is, the possibilities are endless and it will all work out in the end. Peace and blessings, peace and blessings.

Shayla said...

Where is Zack Oates when you need him? Help a brother out, Zack! :)

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Kari said...

I thought Chris and Sharla were great together! So, somehow I was left with the impression that there is still a glimmer of hope for this relationship because she is not even exclusively dating this "other" guy. Chris, if you are reading, JUMP in there and don't let her go! You still can prove yourself. And if it doesn't work out, there will be somebody better for both of you! (and without a doubt, the other girl who would get a third date is Courtney.)

I Read At Night said...

Is it permissible for the Mormon bachelor or bachelorette to choose someone early on and end the process early as a result? Could Chris have chosen either Courtney or Sharla after the first date, considered his feelings, spoken honestly with the girl he really felt optimistic about, and canceled second and third dates? Or could he have canceled third dates after seeing how he felt from second dates? From what has been shown to us, Chris is interested in Courtney but Sharla is the only one he seemed to really want to be with.

That's why him stopping communication with her is surprising to me. I hope these people will be happy regardless. And if possible, I really hope the next bachelor and bachelorette will have spent some time watching this because it does feel disappointing.

Connie said...

What song is this?